A cautionary tale

If you’ve followed my Kindness Card journey, you know my experiences with people on the streets have been overwhelmingly positive. So many smiles. Stories. New friends. Even hugs.

But recently in St. George, Utah, I broke one of my rules about giving away cards at night.

I faced a sobering reminder that the stakes are always high, and safety must be the priority.

While talking to one very kind man in need and giving him some of your cards, another approached us in the parking lot and quickly turned aggressive.

He’d had a rough day, was kicked out of a shelter, and was venting about law enforcement.

It was obvious he was under the influence and battling in real time a mental health episode.

Before long, the man was hurling vulgar, profane, and extremely violent threats towards the local police.

Then he looked me in the eye, pointed, and threatened me. He said if it turned out I was a cop, he’d kill me. 

I assured him, with a nervous smile and shoulder shrug, that I am not. 

It was the first time since this movement began that someone made a direct threat.

Soon the man was screaming, swearing, and two employees of the gas station came outside and called the police.

The other man and I wished him well and slowly backed away.

The experience was such a stark reminder to stay aware and alert in these moments.

It was also an example of how the people I meet are often coming into our encounters in real desperation.

Friends — if you ever choose to give out Kindness Cards in your own community, please do it in daylight, in highly public places, never alone, and be mindful of your surroundings.

Most importantly, trust your instincts and inspiration.

And remember that unsettling experiences like this one are exceedingly rare.

I promise last night won’t stop me from talking to strangers and giving them your cards. 

But I also promise to more closely follow my own rules.